Saturday, April 18, 2015

Mentoring Those Who Do Not Know Christ

I am not ashamed of the Gospel … for it is God’s power working unto salvation … to everyone who believes with a personal trust and confident surrender.”
– Romans 1: 16. AMP

Mentoring the Gospel is different than direct witnessing, although the goal of sharing Christ with non-believers is always the same. In mentoring, the mentor and mentee develop a relationship based on sharing information, skills, resources, etc. and on caring about each other. The mentoring relationship should give the mentee a certain amount of comfort in knowing that she is in a truthful, honest and sincere relationship that has her best interest at heart. Consequently, the mentor will have many opportunities to speak into the life of the mentee. Or, the mentee will feel comfortable enough to ask some hard or uncomfortable questions of her mentor. At other times, God will direct the conversation by providing opportunities for the mentor to share Jesus with the un-“Saved” mentee. Although direct witnessing for Christ can occur without the Christian even knowing the other person’s name, in active relational Christian mentoring (ARCM) the mentor gets to know the mentee and gets a feel for the needs of her mentee. The mentor can then find the best moments to share Christ with her mentee.

The mentoring relationship allows the mentor to learn more about the mentee and to understand her background and why things in her life have developed the way they have. Moreover, it is within the mentoring relationship that the mentee can see that her mentor really lives for Christ. The mentee can see the mentor’s devotion to Christ, as it shows through her attitude, behaviors and words. Only in seeing the mentor’s true relationship with Christ will the mentee begin to see the difference between someone who really believes in Christ and someone who says they believe, but has no truth or actions to exemplify what they profess.

Our Christian lives are a representation of what we believe or don’t believe. In active relational Christian mentoring (ARCM), those who are lost (do not know Christ as their Savior) become aware or learn of Christ through Christians’ lives. Then as we mentor them, no matter the topic, skill, resource or information shared, our mentees will begin to ask questions or become open to the mentor sharing her faith. With a positive and caring relationship and through God-given opportunities mentors can share the Good News with our un-“Saved” mentees. The sharing can occur early in the mentoring relationship or much later as the mentee begins to ask questions or as opportunities arise. But whenever it occurs, mentors need to be prepared to share Christ with their mentee.

Using the book of Romans as the mentor’s road map (often called the Roman Road), the mentor can share the Gospel message of our risen Savior with the mentee. Have these Scriptures handy in your purse or car so that when the moment arrives you can share them with your mentee. There is a book, though, that every Christian should read. It is entitled: Share Jesus Without Fear by William Fay and Linda Evans Shepherd. These authors have explained how to use those and other Scriptures to reach the lost without being intimidating or fearful. Christians can use Scriptures from the books of Romans, John, II Corinthians and Revelation to share the Good News. These verses can be used in direct witnessing or in ARCM. In both situations, however, the believer allows the Bible to speak to the heart of the unbeliever. God’s Word does all the work for us.

Below are Scriptures you can use to share Christ with your mentee. Just be sure to have your mentee read them in this order.

Romans 3: 23. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”

Romans 6: 23.  “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

John 3: 3.  “Jesus answered and said to him, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the Kingdom of God.’”

John 14:6.  “Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through me.’”

Romans 10: 9-11. “that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation. For the Scripture says, ‘Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed.’”

II Corinthians 5: 15.  “and He died for all, so that they who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Revelation 3: 20. “Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him and he with Me.

I would add this last verse, as well:

II Corinthians 5: 17. “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.

Christ changes a person. We become new beings who have hope, joy, internal peace and the assurance of an eternity spent with God.

Whether you use these Scriptures for direct witnessing or during your mentoring of another woman, you should encourage the woman to read the Scriptures aloud. The authors of Share Jesus without Fear suggest that after the person reads a verse, that you ask her to explain what the verse said to her. If she struggles with understanding the verse, just ask her to read it aloud again more slowly. Why is it important that the mentee reads the verse aloud? Well, the Bible says in Romans 10: 17 that “So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.” It is when we read something aloud that understanding happens. We not only comprehend what we have read, but its meaning sinks into our hearts when it is read aloud. That is why Christians should read the Bible aloud every chance they get, even when we are alone. 

I suggest that all Christians carry a Bible, or at least the Newer Covenant/ Testament in their car. Women can carry a small New Testament in their purse so they can have it handy when someone asks a question or when an opportunity arises. I was riding in the car with one of my mentees when out of the blue we started talking about Christ and Salvation. At the time, I did not have a New Testament in my purse, and I was riding in her car. She was not a Christian, so she did not have a Bible in her car. Fortunately, we were heading back to my house where I could show her the verses. (I had not yet learned, though, that the mentee should read the verses aloud.). Although, she did become a Christian at a later date, I had lost the momentum of the moment, because I did not have a Bible handy. So, please consider carrying a Bible with you as the Holy Spirit may decide the moment is right when you least expect it.

Finally, once you have helped the mentee through all the above verses, give her an opportunity to pray the sinner’s prayer and ask Christ into her heart. You may have to explain the sinner’s prayer. But, in whatever words she chooses to use, she simply asks for forgiveness of her sins and states that she believes in Christ as the virgin born Son of God who died on the cross for her sins but arose three days later overcoming eternal death for us all. The mentee can then ask Christ to come into her heart. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing another person accept Christ as her Savior. I hope each Christian woman gets the chance to experience sharing Christ with another person. Salvation is when faith and hope come together in certainty. We know that we know that we know that our eternal life will be spent with God. We know that we are SAVED!
Let Your mercies come … O Lord –
Your Salvation according to Your Word.
 – Psalm 119: 41 NKJV

Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly …
with thankfulness in your hearts to God.”

– Colossians 3: 16 ESV

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