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Saturday, April 7, 2018

Making a Difference by Influencing Lives for Christ




"If [Christian leaders] do not teach Christian
principles to all followers of Christ,
we are not equipping them with God's truth that will
overcome worldly influence."  
-- ( p. 53 Billy Graham in Quotes, c. 2011).



I have a passion for Christian mentoring, which is why I wrote the book: The Three-Strand Cord of Active Relational Christian Mentoring. I know that fellow Christians understand that we are to share our faith with non-believers, but we also have been given the responsibility of speaking into the lives of both believers and non-believers to help them live more productive lives for the Lord. We are not supposed to be in this life journey alone but are to be there to help each other. One of the ways that we can help other women is to speak into the lives of these other women through Active Relational Christian Mentoring. Mentoring may sound scary or sound like it will take too much of our time, but if we are willing to step forward and do God’s will in showing our love toward others, mentoring will not be scary and somehow through God’s grace and provision we will be able to find the time that is needed to invest in the life of another woman. In fact, all it takes is 20 to 30 minutes a week to speak into the life of another woman, i.e., to mentor her.

So, what is a mentor? Well, a mentor is an individual who comes along side of another person to support, encourage, help, teach, coach, or counsel that person who is also known as the mentee. Indeed, there are mentors in all areas of life. Businessmen have mentors, students have mentors, and most any work-related area of our lives has the possibility of mentors.

A woman Christian mentor, though, is an individual who has truly accepted Christ as her Lord and Savior and who then develops a godly relationship with either another Christian woman or a non-Christian woman for the purpose of encouraging, supporting, counseling, etc. She is investing in the life of the other woman so that the love of God can be understood and seen by her. The ultimate purpose of the Christian woman mentor is to empower the other woman, i.e., the mentee, to be all that she can be for God, for herself, for her family, for her friends, and to be all that she can be even for those acquaintances that she encounters. Of course, for those that have as yet to ask Christ into their heart, the Christian mentor has an even greater purpose, which is to share the Gospel message within the mentoring process. It is then through the mentoring process that the Christian mentor will guide her mentee into knowing more about the Lord and how He expects all of us to live. Through her witnessing as well as through prayer and study of the Word of God, the mentor plants the seeds of Salvation for the non-Christian mentee. God then does the rest.

Most mentoring relationships start out on common ground or with a need that needs to be met for the mentee or with a topic or subject that needs to be covered in order to make the woman’s life easier or more productive. But no matter the initial reason for the mentoring relationship, a non-Christian woman mentee should then acquire greater knowledge about God and Christ’s gift of Salvation through the Christian mentoring process and through the time spent together in fellowship with her mentor. Along with the goal of helping the non-Christian woman in whatever area she needs help, there is the ultimate goal of helping her to find Christ as her Savior. But in order to help the woman find Christ, the Christian mentor must first develop a mentoring relationship based upon love and caring.

A Closer Walk with the Lord

The outcome or fruit generated from an Active Relational Christian Mentoring relationship should be the mentee's closer walk with the Lord. The fruit is also the empowerment of another Christian woman who is willing to walk daily for the Lord, and who is willing to share her knowledge of Christ and Salvation will other women she encounters. A friend of mine, Donna McCoy Harms, said this about Christian mentoring: “When we fellowship with another woman, we will discover that a kinship develops in the learning, laughing, and sometimes crying that takes place as both the mentor and the mentee grow closer to the Lord.” All this and more occurs within the Christ developed relationship between mentor and mentee that can not only impact the lives of both women, but that can impact the lives of other women they encounter.

Christian mentoring of another believer is part of our responsibility as born-again followers of Christ to encourage each other to walk for the Lord and to always keep Christ first and foremost within our hearts. This is why, the author of Hebrews wrote to his fellow Christians: “Take care brethren that there not be in any one of you an evil, unbelieving heart that falls away from the living God.  But encourage one another day after day as long as it is still called ‘Today’, so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. For we have become partakers of Christ, if we hold fast the beginning of our assurance firm until the end.  -- (Hebrews 3: 12-14. NASB).

The Need for Encouragement and Love

It is very hard to live in this secular world without the support of fellow Christians. Moreover, it can be difficult to grow in spiritual maturity, grow closer to the Lord, or stay true to Him without the help and encouragement of fellow believers, i.e. the church body. For, it is our fellow Christians who can encourage us, help us, and keep us accountable, so that we do not inadvertently let the devil and his espoused sin get a foothold within our heart. It is only through our healthy relationships with fellow Christian women that express caring, kindness, support, and concern for these other women that we can see or are reminded of God’s eternal love for us. That is why it is so important for women to invest in the lives of other women through the process of Active Relational Christian Mentoring.

As Christians, we cannot live in isolation from the secular world. Indeed, both Christian men and women live surrounded by evil, trials, and tribulations, as well as by just the daily grind of living in a sinful world. To avoid all the pitfalls of living within this fallen world, all Christians need the encouragement of other Christians. In fact, the importance of this needed encouragement by our fellow Christians is expressed in the Apostle’s writings throughout the Newer Testament. For, it was the Apostle Paul, who when writing to the Thessalonians, went so far as to admonish the new Christians to encourage one another. Paul said, “Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.”  -- (I Thessalonians 5: 11. NASB)

We all need to be reminded of our responsibility as believers to encourage and help our fellow Christians. But we also need to be reminded of the effect that we are having on those around us as they see and listen to what we have to say. That is why it is so important for Christian women to step forward to specifically invest in the lives of other women through Christian mentoring.

Most of us understand the word encouragement, but how do we build up one another. Well, we build up others by not only our words, but by our actions too. We can build up our fellow Christians with our words and by being there for another woman during times of crisis, loneliness, pain, and sorrow. Taking the time out of our personal allotted time, shows the other woman that we care and that we are willing to be there for her. It is in being there for her that we can build her up through our mentoring of the Scriptures, as well as through our mentoring of Christian actions, love, and concern. Moreover, being willing to help gives the other woman a feeling of worthiness while giving her a friend who is willing to stand by her in her time of need.

The Apostle Paul again teaches us about the importance of encouragement and true love through the letter he wrote to the Philippian Christians. Paul wrote, “Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing out of selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves: do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others.  -- (Philippians 2: 1-4. NASB).

Active Relational Christian Mentoring is a selfless loving service to the Lord and to other women which allows us to express the love of Christ in both our words and our actions. Through the simple act of the mentoring fellowship, we can help, support, comfort, inform, and share our knowledge, skills, talents, and wisdom with another woman. Active Christian mentoring also helps us to look out for the interest of a fellow Christian woman as we help empower her to be all that she was created to be. And for the woman who does not yet know Christ as her Savior, your Christian mentoring fellowship, support, caring, and kindness can be seen as the light of Christ shining out from your re-born life. Moreover, the joyful unity of believers serving the Lord and others is not only welcoming, but it is a powerful way to express the Gospel of Christ and His love to a woman who needs Him desperately. Furthermore, women were created to help, support, and share not only what they know but especially the Gospel message with other women.

The Reason God Created Women.

We have all read the creation story in Genesis, and we have all been told why God created humans. Why were we created? Well, in Isaiah 43: 7 we are told that God created us for His glory! However, our purpose here on earth doesn’t end with just giving God the glory He so richly deserves. We were also created to love God and to love others. In fact, besides giving us the ability to glorify God and praise Him, God has also given each of us a specific purpose in life that has to do with love. It is this purpose that will benefit the Kingdom of God.

What is the Kingdom of God? Well, it is a spiritual kingdom made up of believers in Christ who have been commissioned to tell all the world about Christ and the gift of Salvation offered to all. As believers we are expected to benefit the Kingdom of God, but we must be willing to care about the members of God’s Kingdom, and we must be willing to tell non-Christians about the Kingdom of God in order to do so. As caring Christians, we are ones who can help the Kingdom of God grow exponentially by our witnessing for Christ.

Humans were created to not only glorify and praise the Lord, but to serve the Kingdom of God and through our service produce fruit for the Kingdom of God in our own specifically created way. Yes, every person who has been re-born has been created to do specific work and witnessing for the Kingdom of God. Both men and women have their own special characteristics and abilities that can not only contribute to the continuity of the human race, but that also enables them to serve the Lord in their own special way.

We all know that God created man first. But shortly thereafter, God decided that He needed to create a companion for man. In Genesis 2: 18 we read: “And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper, comparable to him.” But it is in Genesis 2: 21-23 that we actually discover how God created woman: “So, the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took on of his ribs and closed up the flesh at the place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from man and brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man.’” – (NASB).

The Hebrew word for woman is “isha”. The Hebrew word for man is “ish”. The evangelist David Jeremiah said that God took a rib from man or “ish” so that woman or “isha” would be a part of “ish”. In other words, Adam would be incomplete until they were brought together as “ish” and “isha”. This was because Adam, who was missing a rib, now needed to be near to “isha”. In other words, in order to be complete, Adam needed “isha” at his side.

But it was more than Adam just needing to be near his missing rib that brought them together, because God had created “isha” to be there to support, encourage, love, and help Adam. Moreover, because of the way that God had made woman, God knew that she would be able to use the special characteristics of love, as well as the ability to encourage, comfort, show kindness, and have empathy, and the ability to help and support others in their needs. In other words, she was to be a helpmate to not only her husband but to her family and friends. Furthermore, God knew ahead of time that the special and unique characteristics that He had given to both man and woman would be very valuable in making and maintaining relationships. Moreover, these abilities would also be important to witnessing and mentoring others for the benefit of Kingdom of God once God sent His Son into the world to save us from our sins. Sure enough, each gender, i.e., man and woman, were to use their special characteristics, gifts, and abilities to be ambassadors for Christ and for the Kingdom of God once they accepted the free gift of Salvation through Jesus Christ, God’s Son.

Besides the purpose of glorifying God, we each have been given individual purposes in life. To further accomplish our individual purposes in life within our ambassadorship for Christ, God has also given each Christian certain talents, skills, knowledge, and wisdom unique to them to use for themselves and for the benefit of the Kingdom of God. With these talents, skills, knowledge, wisdom, etc., God has also given both man and woman the ability to influence others for the glory of God. But, God has further given women in particular some unique abilities that can enable them to be great at Christian mentoring and influencing others for Christ.

The Influence of Women as Christian Mentors.

God has given every woman a great area of influence within her life. In fact, women can influence their families, their spouses, and their children on a daily basis. In actuality, though, they have been given, through their influence, the ability to mentor those around them on a daily basis whether they realize it or not. In addition to influencing those closest to them, women influence other women in their workplace, at church, and during ordinary life encounters. They can even influence the children that their children play with. Women also influence the women that they meet in stores, in beauty salons, and in workout centers, etc. In fact, the list of those women who are daily influenced within the category of just passive mentoring could go on and on. However, when we add to this list, the category of active influence such as women's engagement in conversation, or women's involvement in active mentoring, then women's' areas of influence grow greatly. Indeed, every person that a woman encounters is being brought into her circle of influence, even if it is just momentarily. That is why it is so important for Christian women to think about their potential words and their actions first; always asking ourselves if we are glorifying the Lord with our words and actions.

One of the most wonderful things that Christian women can do is to become an active relational Christian mentor. For, it is through the use of both our words and actions as mentors that we can influence and actually enhance the lives of other women, i.e., our mentees, in an active way rather than just a passive way. In fact, the biblical scriptures tell us that Christian women are to not only mentor their spouses, children, and friends, but that we are to mentor other Christian women in our walk with the Lord. Although the word “mentor” is not specifically used, the apostle Paul wrote to Titus and in his letter set out the duties of both older and younger Christian women and their mentoring responsibilities within the Kingdom of God. He said: “Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they many encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the Word of God will not be dishonored.”  -- (Titus 2: 3-5. NASB).

Women have Special Abilities for Christian Mentoring.

All of the things that the Apostle Paul mentioned are important to the Christian walk and to the influence that women have upon other women. But along with those duties, Christian women have also been given talents, skills, and abilities to support, help, enlighten, and empower another woman to be all that she can be for God, herself, her family, and her friends. Along with the wisdom and biblical knowledge that women have received from studying the Bible, the Holy Spirit has also bestowed upon Christian women individual talents that can be used in their mentoring of another woman. But besides these spiritual gifts, skills, and talents, women have been given other special abilities that can help in the mentoring process.

These special abilities actually empower Christian women to develop active mentoring relationships with other women. Here are just a few of those abilities that women can use in mentoring. You can probably think of others.

1.     Women are generally great at communicating. In fact, women speak more words in a single day than men speak in a day.
2.     Women in general are capable of thinking about several things at once and discerning the most important.
3.     Women are usually capable of juggling and using time wisely, allowing them to get many things done in a single day.
4.     Women are generally able to share or teach others skills, and share their knowledge, and information. (For example: even without being a career teacher, most women are capable of teaching their children what they need to know in order to get along in the world.).
5.     Women are able to use their instincts to help themselves and others even when a situation does not seem concerning in the natural world.
6.     Women usually have developed greater discernment.
7.     Women usually have good insight if they are leaning on the Lord.
8.     Women in general have an instinctual nurturing nature.
9.     Women are usually capable of loving many people at once.
10. Women are usually capable of showing empathy to others.

There are probably many more abilities that you can list that help women in their mentoring or influence of other women. But there is one more ability that women mentors need to have or can acquire. That is the ability to listen to the other woman. Many women are already good listeners, but if you aren’t you can acquire the ability to listen; you just have to desire to listen. It is just a matter of choosing to listen closely to the other woman. Also, we must understand, too, that listening encompasses not only the ability to hear what the other woman is saying, but it also includes the ability to see or observe the facial expressions and body language of the other woman. If you can learn to do all three, you can become a great listener. However, if you are then able to add the ability to discern what the other woman is not saying, sometimes called reading between the lines, then you can become an excellent listener.

It is those women who work at listening to what the other woman is actually saying who are able to become great mentors. That is because they are able to both hear and see the need or concern that should be addressed for the mentee. Then the Christian mentor can pray for her mentee with the assurance that she praying for the right things or needs of the mentee. This is important, because prayer is a powerful resource to be used in helping our mentees. For, without God’s guidance, direction, and support, we are just floundering around in our human perceptions and actions, with hit or miss results. But, to really be good or great Active Relational Christian Mentors, we must rely on God through our prayer and our study of His Word.

The bottom line is that God has given each woman what she needs to accomplish the method of servanthood that He has asked her to perform. God has also given us the resources and innate abilities as well as the special talents to be used in our service to Him and to other women for the Kingdom of God. All we have to do is look at ourselves closely and evaluate our skills, talents, gifts, knowledge, and abilities, and then pray about how we are to use all of them within our Christian lives of service. Moreover, Active Relational Christian Mentoring is a wonderful service that every woman can perform for the Kingdom of God whether you are dedicating your godly service to Christian Mentoring or you are just occasionally mentoring a friend or neighbor. You Can Do It! You can mentor for the Lord!

Salvation for All

“Salvation is always ‘good news.’
It is news of God’s love and forgiveness – adoption into His family –
Fellowship with His people – freedom from the penalty of sin –
Liberation from the power of sin.”

[God] holds in His omnipotent hand the priceless,
precious, eternal gift of salvation,
and He bids you to take it without money and without price.”
-- Billy Graham in Quotes, c. 2011. p. 111, 113.

If you are not a born-again Christian, which means that you haven’t asked for Christ’s forgiveness and haven’t believed upon Him as the Living Son of God, you can easily do so. All you have to do is come to Christ with a truly repentant heart for the sins in your life and then ask Him to forgive your sins, while believing that Christ, who was born of a virgin, died for you on the cross, and was raised from the dead conquering eternal death for you and everyone who will believe on Him. For the Word of God says:

That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.
For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
For the Scripture says, ‘Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.’” 
-- (Romans 10: 9-11. NKJ).

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Accountability Mentoring by Sharing Each Other's Troubles and Problems







"Share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think that you are too important to help someone in need, you are only fooling yourself. You are really a nobody."
-- Galatians 6: 2-3 NLT




In my book The Three-Strand Cord of Active Relational Christian Mentoring, I discuss the many different mentoring categories as well as the types of mentoring that Christians can engage in to help another Christian to grow stronger and stay on track for the Lord. Remember, Active Relational Christian Mentoring is a just another type of discipleship that all Christians can easily engage in. Moreover, we are commanded to go and make disciples for Christ in Matthew:28: 18-20. To help us make disciples and then disciple current Christians there are several different mentoring categories from which a Christian can choose. All of these mentoring categories can be used to disciple and encourage another Christian; categories such as the simple fellowship mentoring to and including Sponsorship mentoring and several in-between. But the specific mentoring category that I want to discuss today is one called “Accountability Mentoring” which is described within several of the different Scripture verses in the Bible.

The concept of accountability and more specifically the category of accountability mentoring has been used throughout the ages to help, encourage, and empower another person to be even more than they thought they could ever become. But, how is this concept of accountability used within the Christian world? Well, Christian accountability is the relationship that one believer has with another believer for the express purpose of the mentor believer observing, encouraging, teaching, and holding accountable the actions of the other believer, i.e., the mentee.

Although, a Christian is accountable to God first and foremost, a follower of Christ, i.e, a true Christian, is also accountable to other Christians and vice versa for their words, actions and conduct. That is because, we do not walk alone in this world. First, we have Christ and the Holy Spirit walking with us. Secondly, we are to have the support of other Christians who like all true Christians are to represent Christ to the world in everything that we say and do. In other words, every Christian has a responsibility to help, empower, and encourage other Christians as well.

The Apostle Paul wrote: “Now therefore, (as Christians) you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord, a dwelling place of God in the Spirit.  -- (Ephesians 2: 19-22. NKJV).


 This above verse means that Christians are also accountable for their interactions with other Christians and are especially accountable for their brotherly or sisterly purpose in supporting, encouraging, enlightening, helping, sharing, and checking on the needs of another Christian. Moreover, we are responsible for discipling each other. This discipleship and support is just one of the reasons why God’s Word tells us that we are to help keep each other focused on what God wants for our lives. Then as we watch out for and support each other, we are to also let each other know if and when we are doing or saying something that does not represent Christ in the best light to the world. It is in this process of mentoring discipleship that Christians can grow spiritually stronger for the Lord. For example, in Proverbs 27: 17 we are told that as “iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”

 Within this idea of “iron sharpening iron” rises the concept of accountability mentoring. This means that two Christians who are willing to talk to each other about their ideas, troubles, needs, and insights, and who are willing to do so in the light of Christ can be there for each other through the process of active accountability mentoring. Accountability mentoring is essentially helping one or both of the believers to stay accountable for their personal actions or words. Their communication with each other can not only stimulate both believers’ thought processes and enable them to become stronger for the Lord together, but it can enable them to challenge each other and become sharper in mental clarity, in their righteous actions and words, as well as in their knowledge of the Word of God.

In accountability mentoring, the Christian mentor is there to challenge the mentee’s spiritual growth and to help the mentee see clearly what it is that she needs to overcome in her life and stay focused in doing so. During the accountability mentoring process the Christian mentor will also help the mentee to see clearly that Christ will never let her down no matter what trial she has to overcome. In addition, the Christian friend, i.e., mentor, will not only support her mentee’s personal endeavors to improve, but also be there to hold her accountable for her actions as well.


We are all accountable to God for our actions


The ultimate accountability for all of us comes when we stand before Christ at the Bema Seat or Judgment Seat one day. “We must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad.” – (II Corinthians 5: 10. NASB)

The Bema seat or judgment seat is a place of accountability for all Christians rather than a place of condemnation. Even though it is not a place of condemnation, “… each one of us will give an account of himself to God.” – (Romans 14: 12. NASB). Moreover, it is at the Bema seat where we will receive our crowns or rewards for what we have accomplished for Christ while here on earth. Among the many rewards we can receive, Christians can receive rewards for the love that they have shown to others while working here on earth. Showing our Christian love includes doing such things as working to share the Gospel message and working to help other Christians grow stronger in their spiritual maturity, as well as working to help a Christian to overcome a stronghold that constantly bedevils her. Who have you helped recently? Have you helped a mentee stay accountable to a decision they have made? Have you spent time with a friend that is suffering from loneliness or loss? There are so many things that we as Christians can do to uplift, encourage, empower, and help another Christian.

Some of the things that true Christians can do for others and that can be of benefit to another Christian in regard to discipleship and accountability mentoring could include such things as the following: simply being there for a friend or acquaintance who needs you to check in on them about their commitment to daily prayer; being there to check on and encourage a Christian in their Bible study; or being there to check on the progress they have made in sharing their faith with non-Christians. Other accountability areas may include such things as: being there for a fellow Christian when they are tempted to succumb to a specific negative area of their personality that they are working on, such as an anger issue. Then taking the time to talk with the mentee about their anger issue, or just being there to help the mentee to work on a particular attitude that they are having trouble overcoming. There are many other areas of accountability needs, too numerous to mention, that can be helped by a Christian accountability mentor.

You are probably saying to yourself, “Why do I have to help someone stay accountable for their actions and words? Can’t they take care of themselves?”  The reality, though, is that every true Christian is accountable to other Christians for their conduct, attitude, and character. But how can that be? Well, the Apostle Peter puts it this way: “Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.”  -- (I peter 3: 8-9. NKJV). Peter is saying that we receive blessings for doing the work of Christ here on earth. One of those works is just being there for fellow Christians when they need us, whether it is a need to learn, a need to grow spiritually, or an emotional need. Furthermore, Christians will be held accountable to God for what we have and haven’t done for the Kingdom of God.

If Christians today are not held accountable for their non-Christian actions and words, we may eventually succumb to our basic human nature, which is the human tendency to falter and to try to fit in with the secular world around us. But authentic Christians, who are aware that they will held accountable for their actions as Children of God, should not want to succumb to their basic human nature, nor should they want to fit in with or accept the common secular worldviews. Neither should true Christians easily succumb to the temptations of the secular world around them. But it isn’t always easy to avoid these temptations, especially if a Christian has developed strongholds over the years that have become hard to overcome. That is why a Christian may need to be held accountable to another Christian.

There are many things that can tempt every person including Christians, and these temptations can keep a Christian from living fully for Christ and on the straight and narrow way. A Christian’s biblical Worldview can become tarnished, because she falls for the things of this secular world instead of standing for the inerrant Word of God, truthfulness, morality, integrity, humility, principles, respecting Word of God, adhering to biblical values, maintaining Christian authenticity, or standing for Christian virtues; to just name a few things that should fit into our biblical worldview. That is why all Christians have to be held accountable for all these godly things and more, because we are the representatives or the ambassadors of Christ. This means that a fellow Christian may need to have an accountability partner who can be there to encourage, help, and empower her to be all that she can be for the Lord. Only other Christians can hold us accountable for our words and actions while we are here on earth.


No Christian has ever been called to go it alone


In today’s world, most people do not want to discuss accountability, let alone have an accountability mentoring partner. That is because people have been taught to be independent, and they want to be independent and self-sufficient even when they need the help of Christ and a Christian friend. Consequently, the idea of being accountable to another person for their words, actions, and conduct is not something that most people want to do. For, even when a person is hurting and suffering from their own actions, many still want to try to go it alone. Then if you add human pride and egotism to their ideas of independence and self-sufficiency, we find that there is a large group of people who will still refuse to be held accountable for their own words and actions no matter what happens. However, there are strong and specific biblical teachings within the Word of God regarding the concept of Christians teaching other Christians and Christians bearing one another’s burdens. Indeed, there are specific Scriptures that demand that each of us are to be held accountable for what we do and say. In fact, the Apostle Paul wrote in his letter to the Galatians that we are to “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.”  -- (Galatians 6: 2, 10. NKJV).

These two concepts of teaching others and then individually being held accountable for our words and conduct comes directly from the Bible. Indeed, Jesus said: “And I tell you this, that you must give an account on judgment day of every idle word you speak. The words you say now reflect your fate then; either you will be justified by them or you will be condemned.”  -- (Matthew 12: 36, 37. NIV). Then after Christ returned to Heaven, the Apostle Peter said; “As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts which were yours in your ignorance, but like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also in all your behavior: because it is written, ‘You shall be Holy, for I am Holy. If you address as Father the One who impartially judges according to each one’s work, conduct yourselves in fear during the time of your stay here on earth.  -- (I Peter 1: 14-17. NASB). Obviously, true Christians have a changed or re-born heart and will thus be held accountable for their words and actions, i.e., accountable for all their behaviors.

But humans have always been held accountable for their words and actions in one manner or another here on earth. If we start reading at the beginning of the Bible in the book of Genesis, we discover that not only were Adam and Eve held accountable for their sinful and rebellious actions against God, but their son Cain was also held accountable for his rebellious action against God as well as for his murderous action against his brother, Abel. But, what would have happened if Adam had spent more time teaching and mentoring Eve so that she didn’t succumb to the lies of the devil? Or what would have happened if Adam and Eve and had spent more time teaching their children to love each other and to be accountable to each other rather than to be jealous? We will never know, because Adam and Eve had no prior experience at being loving parents who hold their children accountable for their actions. But, throughout the years, God has taught us through His Word, what accountability means. Moreover, God set up a system for mankind (I refuse to be politically correct with the word mankind) of mentoring/teaching, so that people are held accountable to each other. This system of mentoring and teaching assured that mankind survived. That system was the system of mentoring and teaching that was based upon relationships.

The System of Relationships


The Triune God is in a relationship with His three personas; the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Because of that deep holy relationship, God knew that human relationships would be needed in order to help people to grow stronger emotionally stronger mentally, and stronger spiritually. That is because what one person didn’t know at a particular time another person might suddenly discover and then both would benefit from the sharing of their knowledge while growing stronger spiritually. This sharing and kindness that came about within the mentoring and teaching process also set up a way for God’s Word to be shared throughout the world. Each person could grow closer to God while at the same time helping others to grow closer as well. All this growth was to be accomplished through the development of mentoring and accountability relationships.

Within the concept of relationships, mankind soon discovered that there are not only many kinds of relationships, but that there are also varying degrees of depth to every relationship, and that within each relationship is a built-in accountability factor. Some of the different relationships we can engage in like that of teacher and student easily show us the importance of the accountability factor within the relationship. But it isn’t just the obvious parental or teacher/ student accountability relationship that becomes important within our lives. Indeed, there are many other types of relationships for each of us, and all of them have some type of accountability factor. Therefore, it is important to recognize the accountability factor in each relationship and the accountability that is innate within relationships that we have with others. We need to understand our accountability in order to maintain that relationship. For example, husbands and wives are to be accountable to each other, friends are to be accountable to their friends, and Christians are to be accountable to other Christians as well. Indeed, we would be hard pressed to name any type of human relationship that did not have some type of accountability factor built within the relationship. But how many people accept the accountability that they are to have within their relationships?

The Accountability Factor

The whole idea of accountability brings us right back to the Bible. In fact, the Bible teaches us that there is a strong accountability factor built into all our lives, and we can see it demonstrated throughout both the Older and the Newer Testaments. Everywhere we read in the Bible, we discover that accountability is an important biblical teaching that is not only crucial to our moral and spiritual growth, but that it is also crucial to our relationship and fellowship with God and His Son. For, how can we ask forgiveness of our sins, if we do not feel accountable for participating in these sins and then want forgiveness for having committed those sins? Or how can we grow and mature spiritually if we do not heed the accountability that the Holy Spirit (the Encourager) brings to our lives when He quickens our hearts and conscience after we have done something or even before we have done something that we should not do.

Christians are not only accountable to the Lord, but we are also to be accountable to other Christians. Indeed, our lives are changed once we ask Christ into our heart. We have suddenly been reborn into a new person who is held to higher moral and emotional standard than a non-Christian. We are held to these higher standards through accountability, because our Salvation has not only cleansed us of our past sins, but a Christian has been given a reborn heart that no longer wants to sin. We certainly understand that we are accountable for living a life that reflects Christ to the rest of the world and that reflects His righteousness, goodness, and love. But, because we live in this fallen world of temptations, deceit, and evil, Christians still have to focus on discipling each other and on growing in the Word of God and on spiritually maturing and doing what is right in the eyes of God. This means Christians grow through listening to the Holy Spirit within, through studying the Word of God, and through constantly staying in contact with God through prayer. In doing so, Christians must realize that they have a responsibility to God and their Savior, Jesus Christ, not only for their words, but also for their actions. However, what many Christians fail to realize is that they also have a responsibility for their fellow Christians as well. For, it is through their Salvation that the Lord has given them a loving heart for other people as well as the standards of accountability that provide them with a wise and loving set of checks and balances that will help them and other Christians to live righteously for God.

Where did these checks and balances come from? Well, previously the checks and balances came in the form of the Ten Commandments for which humans were to be held accountable, but God knew that humans would not live up to those standards, so all along God planned for and then sent us a Deliverer or Savior in the person of His Son, Jesus Christ. Through Christ we can be forgiven of our sins and made righteous before God. Now, it is through our Salvation with Christ who lives in our hearts along with the Holy Spirit’s indwelling of us that we instinctively know how to live up to God’s checks and balances as recorded in the Word of God. But, all humans are stubborn and selfish, basically wanting to do what they see others doing so that they, too, can fit into this secular world without making a fuss. This is why many people fall for the secular world’s lies and ways; they want to fit in with those around them.

Upon Salvation and baptism, the Lord, Jesus Christ, gave us the Holy Spirit who indwells all believers, and it is He who talks to us and guides us in living up to God’s standards. If we listen to the Holy Spirit, study the Word of God, and pray to God through His Son, we can stay on the straightway and not succumb to the enticements of the secular world.  However, Christians have to work at following God’s standards. Moreover, Christians still have to work daily at being accountable for their words and actions. For, even though Christ forgave us our sins through His sacrifice on the Cross, we are still responsible to shine the light of Christ and His Truth out upon the world through our words and actions. The example that we are to live by is the example that Christ set in His own words and actions. And just as Christ encouraged and discipled the twelve apostles, we too are to through our encouragement and discipleship of other Christians to do the same. This means that Christians are accountable for living up to God’s checks and balances.

Sometimes, though, Christians do not behave the way that the Holy Spirit encourages them to behave. That is because they are tempted by the world’s views on life, and sometimes they succumb to the negatives within this world. New Christians especially need to have an accountability partner mentor to help them learn and see the difference between their past life and their new life in Christ; teaching them to work at living outwardly for Christ. That is why fellow Christians are to reach out and help other struggling Christians navigate the same set of checks and balances given to all of us by Christ. In other words, true Christians are accountable to help other Christians live righteously for the Lord as well. We are to disciple each other along the way.

The Word of God says to “… encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today,’ so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”  -- (Hebrews 3: 13. NASB). This verse and others within the Newer Testament reminds us that Christians do not have to go it alone in their walk with the Lord. First, we have the Lord and His Holy Spirit guiding us. But when temptation knocks at our door, we should have other Christians that we can turn to who will help support us and help keep us accountable, so that the devil and his temptations will not find a place in our lives. In other words, we have to not only turn to God for the Truth, but also turn to other Christians when we feel distraught, frustrated, depressed, and overcome with temptations, so that the devil does not get a stronghold within our hearts. It is only through Christian love and the healthy interactions between true Christians that those who are struggling can stay true to Christ and overcome some of their worldly conflicts.

Indeed, it is through the accountability of relationships provided by Christian mentors that their mentees can be reminded of God’s unfailing and constant love for them. In fact, none of us can easily progress in our relationship with Christ without the help of fellow believers, which usually can be found within the church body that Christ has provided for those who are Saved. For we are told: “… let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some, but exhorting (encouraging) one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”  -- (Hebrews 10: 24, 25. NKJV). But it is up to each person to participate within a church body, and it is up to each Christian to reach out to other Christians to form relationships, especially those relationships that can mentor, encourage and hold accountable another Christian.

The category of accountability mentoring within Active Relational Christian Mentoring can be used in many different relational areas of our lives. Most people at one time or another have been either admonished or praised for their words or actions by a supervisor or someone to whom they have been held accountable at work. Some people have even been given a supervising accountability partner to help them reach goals within their company or work environment. In fact, some people even need an accountability mentor/friend to tell them when they have crossed the line, or to encourage them when they are on the right track.

Most of us need someone to hold us accountable and someone to be there for us when we have to face different things in life. We even enjoy the relationships developed within the body of Christ, i.e., the church, and enjoy the relationship that we may have with a specific friend when we want to share with someone the blessings that we have received from God. As Christians, we understand that the Lord provides other true Christians and uses our relationship with them to not only enable them to see the blessings we have received from the Lord, but to also be able to see our areas of weakness and then to confront us or help us with these areas of weakness. Facing up to our personal failures, needs, and weaknesses with a godly Christian friend who is not afraid to tell us what we need to hear can be very healing as long as it is done in love. This accountability factor can also provide individuals the strength to overcome negatives or trials when that godly Christian friend not only helps them face up to what has been going on in their life but supports and encourages them to change for the better.

Whether the accountability partner mentor helps a Christian overcome an anger issue, stop smoking, or keeps a person on track for overcoming some personal issue, the accountability mentor should be there for the other Christian. Most importantly, the accountability partner should keep their fellow Christian from feeling like just because they are Saved, that they have a license to sin against the Lord. Sometimes this is emotionally difficult, but the accountability partner mentor should not shrink back from telling their Christian mentee what needs to be said.

If we can submit to God’s authority over our lives, we can become beacon of light for the Gospel lived out daily for others to see. By submitting to God’s authority in our lives, we can show others that they, too, are to be accountable to God’s authority and they, too, will be held accountable within their personal relationships with others as well. It is this accountability factor that shines the light of Christ upon the world.

The Light of Christ Upon You!

Humans usually do not want to be held accountable to anyone, and they especially do not want to be held accountable to God. But, God made each one of us. He knows each person intimately, even if they do not know themselves. God also made a space within the heart and soul of each person which is in the shape of God, and only He can fit into that space. No false god, no idol, no belief, or anything other than God can fit into that godly spot within each person’s soul. Oh, many people try to find something to fill that hollow God shaped spot in their soul. Moreover, most people know early on that something is missing in their soul. So, sometimes they try drugs, devilish ideas, false religions, and other things that can lead them to succumb to many vile temptations in order to try and fill that empty spot in their souls without admitting that they really need God. But there is only one person who can fill that emptiness and that person is Jesus Christ, the Son of God.

Do you know Christ?

If you are hurting, at your wits end, or just searching for peace, Christ is there for you. All you have to do is reach out to Him. Tell Christ that you really believe that He is the Son of God. Tell Christ that you believe that God the Father sent Him to Save you and that you believe that Christ rose from the grave after having been crucified for your sins and conquering eternal death. Then ask Christ to forgive you of your sins and to come into your heart. It is really so simple, if you truly mean it.

Although repenting of your sins and asking Christ to come into your heart is simple, many people refuse to acknowledge the Triune God. They refuse to accept that their lives can change for the better just by believing on the living Son of God, Jesus Christ. Instead, they accept the lies that Satan has told to this world. They have fallen for false worldviews that keep them unhappy and deceived. But if you are tired of living those lies, if you want a peace in your heart that passes all understanding and that encompasses your whole being, then turn to Christ.

Obtaining Eternal Peace and Life is Explained in the Word of God

First you must realize that: “all (this means everyone) have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”  -- (Romans 3: 23).

Then you must understand that there is an ultimate cost to your sin, and we know this because the Word of God tells us that “the wages of sin is (eternal) death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – (Romans 6: 23).

God knew that we would all face eternal death for our sins, unless He showed us grace and mercy, so God gave each of us a way to have eternal life. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.”  -- (John 3: 16, 17).

Then, … at the right time Christ (God’s Son) died for the ungodly.”  -- (Romans 5:6).


In fact, it is recorded in the Bible that “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” – (Romans 5: 8).

and He (Christ) died for all, so that they who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.” – (II Corinthians 5: 15).

For, …God raised Him to life three days later.”  -- (Acts 10: 40).


Of course, there is only one way to be saved and enter into the Kingdom of God. In fact, Jesus, Himself, in speaking to a man who had asked him about eternal life and the Kingdom of God, said: “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the Kingdom of God.” – (John 3: 3).

So, how can a person be born again? Well, being born again occurs when a person in believing on Christ and His resurrection then repents of their sins and personally asks Christ into their heart. For, Jesus told Nicodemus, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit (i.e., the Holy Spirit) he cannot enter into the Kingdom of God.– (John 3: 5). 

Later Jesus said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.”  -- (John 14: 6).

Coming to Christ and being forgiven of your sins is so very simple, for the Scriptures tell us, “That if you confess with your mouth ‘Jesus as Lord’, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be Saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in Salvation.”  -- (Romans 10: 9, 10).

But every person has to decide on their own whether or not they truly believe and if then they will ask Christ to come into their heart. In fact, Jesus personally asks each person if they want Christ to come into their heart, so that none are left out. For Jesus said, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My Voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.”  -- (Revelation 3: 20). 

For, whoever will call upon the Name of the Lord will be Saved.” – (Romans 10: 13).

See You Too Can be Saved!

If you want a peace and love that passes all understanding, if you want to be forgiven of all your sins and made righteous before the Lord, and if you want eternal life instead of eternal death, call upon Christ at this very moment in time. He will save you! Then once you have given your life to Christ in belief and in repentance of your sins, tell someone what you have done and that Christ is in your heart. Congratulations! You are Saved! God Bless you!