Many of you may know that I have written a book entitled: The Three-Strand Cord of Active Relational Christian Mentoring. The subtitle is: “Women mentoring women with Christ at the center.” What you may not know, though, is what the title of the book stands for or what the service of Christian mentoring can mean for all true Christians. First and foremost, the complete title of my book was chosen to represent another way for Christian Women to bless and worship the Lord, as well as another way to receive personal blessings from the Lord. For, besides attending church services we can also worship and bless the Lord through our specific Christian service for Him that expresses our love of Him and the love that we have for other people.
Christian mentoring, which requires lovingly reaching out to other women to help, instruct, inspire, and empower them to be all that they can be, is a way that women can serve the Lord and help each other. Moreover, Christian mentoring does not require a large study group, or hours of time. It simply requires two women occasionally getting together to discuss, learn, converse, care about, and support each other. But in Christian mentoring it also requires Christ to be at the center of the mentoring relationship. Indeed, Jesus said, “For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there among them.” -- (Matthew 18: 20. HCSB).
The Three-Strand Cord
There are two important phrases within the title of my book. The first phrase is “The Three-Strand Cord.” The second phrase is, “of Active Relational Christian Mentoring.” I want to discuss today what both of those phrases represent and why I put them together to form the title of my book on Christian Mentoring. I also want to discuss how Active Relational Christian Mentoring is a service that honors, glorifies, and gives worship to the Lord.
Let’s start with the first phrase within the title of my book. So, what does the phrase “The Three-Strand Cord” represent and why did I choose this phrase to be a part of the title of my book? Well, a strong braided cord is usually created by taking three individual cords and intertwining them. This intertwining of the cords then creates a braided cord, which is much stronger than just one individual cord. But, it takes at least three individual cords to produce this single braided cord. In this case, the mentor, Christ and the mentee make up the three cords that are braided together within a Christian mentoring relationship. In fact, God’s Word, within the book of Ecclesiastes, tells us about the strength of such a braided cord.
King Solomon, who authored the book of Ecclesiastes, wrote:
“Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble … A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” -- (Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10, 12. NLT). So, two people, a Christian mentor and her mentee, can stand together against the problems a mentee might encounter. However, the standing together doesn’t just have relate to problems, but can be based upon the needs of the mentee as well as her desire for growth in some particular area. This support or strength from the Christian mentor can encourage, empower, and enable the mentee to become strong, and perhaps she may even develop a desire to live closer to God as she sees the mentor’s Christ-like light shining out upon her. But, whether the woman mentee is a Christian or non-Christian, for the relationship to be strong, Christ has to be one of the braided cords within the relationship in order for the mentee to grow spiritually and in the strength of the Lord.
The New International Version of the Bible (NIV) translates the above same verse 12 from the Greek and Hebrew, but gives this verse 12 an little clearer understanding. For, in the NIV translation, verse 12 says: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Thus, I have used the phrase: “The Three-Strand Cord” within the title of my book to represent the importance of having Christ at the center of any Christian Mentoring Relationship. For, with Christ as the center cord within the braided Three-Strand Cord, there is a greater strength, spiritual awareness, and Christian caring than can be acquired with just two cords representing the mentor and mentee. Therefore, I chose the phrase “The Three-Strand Cord” to represent the most important part of all Christian mentoring relationships. In fact, each of those cords individually will represent the three individuals within the Christian mentoring relationship (ARCM). However, when taken together as a braided three-strand cord, they become even more powerful and strong.
I then used verses 9-10 from chapter 4 of Ecclesiastes as the foundational part of the title of my book, because in a Christian mentoring relationship there has to be at least two people to stand back to back and support each other in order for one or both of them to learn and grow. Moreover, even though one person, i.e., the mentor, within the mentoring relationship may have the strength, talents, gifts, or information, etc. to share with the other person, i.e., the mentee, in order for true fruit production and spiritual maturity to occur within the mentoring relationship Christ needs to be the connecting cord. For, Christ is the One who connects and provides love, wisdom, and Salvation for the other two people within the mentoring relationship. So, it was important that the meaning of verse 12 also be incorporated in the developing of the title of my book.
Within a secular mentoring relationship, it only takes two individuals to stand back to back just as King Solomon said, “Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one … If one person falls, the other can reach out and help….”. However, within a Christian mentoring relationship there needs to be the third person of Jesus Christ within the Christian mentoring relationship. So, to help us fully understand verse 12, I looked at another translation of that verse which says: “And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn asunder.” – (Ecclesiastes 4: 12. NASB).
Within a Christian mentoring relationship, Jesus Christ is the one that binds the other two cords together into a strong braided cord which cannot easily be torn asunder. Moreover, only with Christ at the center of a Christian mentoring relationship can there be a true spiritual and godly relationship. Indeed, Christ must be the third person within the relationship if true Christian mentoring is to occur. Furthermore, without Christ at the center of the spiritual relationship, there can be little to no spiritual growth for the mentee. For, Christ is the truth, trust, faith, love, wisdom, and hope that binds them together. On the other hand, without Christ at the center of the mentoring relationship there may be a lack of understanding between the mentor and mentee, as well as very little spiritual growth. That is why it is important for the mentor to know Christ personally and why it is so important for the mentor to bring Christ to the forefront of the mentoring relationship. Moreover, Christ is the cord that binds or braids the other two cords together and then gives them the strength to accomplish even more than they could ever hope to accomplish if standing alone or together by themselves. Furthermore, Christ is the cord that not only binds the two individuals in a godly relationship, but He is the cord that also produces trust, insight, love, understanding, truth, hope, faith, and wisdom within the relationship. But, most importantly, Christ also offers eternal Salvation to the mentee, if the mentee has not yet found Christ as her Savior.
Without Christ at the center of a Christian mentoring relationship, the two individuals within the mentoring relationship will not be able to accomplish all that God wants them to achieve. For, Christ is the glue that binds or braids the relationship together. Christ is also the hope that permeates the relationship, while Christ gives the Christian mentor the words to say that can touch the heart of a non-Christian mentee for Him. However, if both the mentor and mentee are true born-again Christians, Christ will also be there to speak into their lives and to give the mentor the perfect words needed to encourage, teach, and uplift the mentee, as together, the mentor and mentee learn even more from God’s Word. Additionally, no matter the type of help that is needed by the mentee, Christ will be there to give the mentor the needed words of encouragement for the mentee as well as godly insight into every issue. To be that godly mentor, the mentor just needs to pray, study the Word, and know that Christ will intercede before God for her/him.
Worship is part of Active Relational Christian Mentoring
The second phrase within the title of my book is “of Active Relational Christian Mentoring.” It is this phrase that describes the actual fruit-producing service of Christian mentoring for the Lord and for other women whom Christian women are to help. But, this service to the Lord is also an act of worship for the Lord. In fact, it is through the mentor’s prayers, biblical study, and within the actual service of Christian mentoring that the mentor is actually blessing, worshiping, and honoring God. She is doing all these things as she teaches, informs, supports, encourages, and empowers the mentee to be all that she can be for God, herself, her family, and her friends.
“Worship is God-centered, aware of one another only in that deep, joyous awareness of being caught up together in God.” -- (Anne Ortlund). Christian mentoring can become that deep, joyous awareness of worshiping God when both the mentor and mentee focus on learning more about God and His Son, and when what they are doing or learning reflects back upon the world the light of Christ in all that they do. Indeed, helping another person is the epidemy of living out the commandment that Jesus gave to us when He said, “I command you to love each other.” -- (John 15: 17. NLT), because it takes truly loving another person in order for us to give up some of our personal time to help her.
Oswald Chambers in his devotional “My Utmost for the Highest” also wrote about worshipping the LORD. Chambers said that “Worship is giving God the best that He has given you.” So, what wonderful blessings has God given you to share with others? Obviously, God has given us life. He has also given us His love. Moreover, because of that love, He gave us His Son to die for our sins, as Christ took our sins upon His shoulders upon the cruel cross. All of that occurred so that God’s Son, Jesus Christ, could arise on the third day conquering eternal death for us. Because of Christ's resurrection, humans no longer have to spend eternity in hell. For, God has given to us, through His Son, the opportunity to receive Salvation and to be blessed with eternal life once our physical life on this earth is over.
Among the many other blessings that we have received from God while we living on this earth, God has created and blessed us with a glorious world on which to live; i.e., an earth that produces food, animals, shelter, and beauty beyond imagination. God has also given us the ability to exceed in many of our personal undertakings, if we so desire. He has also given us creative brains to make our world an even more comfortable place to live. In addition to our creative brains, God has given us emotions, companionship, and relationships that can sustain us and enrich our lives. But the greatest blessing God has given us is Salvation through His Son, Jesus Christ. And for those who are truly Saved, God has given us the Holy Spirit to guide us in every way and in everything that we do, if we will just listen to Him. However, it is each person’s choice as to whether or not they will believe on Christ as the living Son of God and then whether they will listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit within them. In fact, God loves us so much that He will never force us to love Him back or force us to worship Him. In other words, it is totally up to each person as to the amount of blessings that that they will receive from the Lord or as to whether or not they will spend eternity with God.
The list of the blessings that God has given to each of us is endless, but being the selfish people that we are, we often forget to recognize the blessings that God has given us. Remember, "Worship is giving God the best that He has given you." Unfortunately, we often fail to give God our best in return. Moreover, in failing to recognize our blessings, we often fail to worship, honor and glorify God.
How can we fail to worship, honor and glorify our Lord, if we go to church and worship God there? Well, the worship of God should not only include our Sunday worship, but it should also include times of quiet wherein we meditate upon God and His Word. For time spent with God in prayer, meditation, and study, returns blessings to God. Moreover, our worship and honoring of God should also include active fruit producing services for Him, which then honors God and His Son, Jesus Christ, through our representation of God and His Son to others. So, whether it is through evangelism, teaching Sunday school, or any of the other numerous Christian out-reach programs we are often engaged in, women should also engage in the fruit production and worship of our Lord by reaching out to other women through Active Relational Christian Mentoring. For, we can become great fruit-producers for the Lord by reaching out to other women who may need our help, which means that we are in turn worshiping, honoring, and glorifying the Lord in our service to other women.
Jesus told the Samaritan woman at the well: “But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth. Yes, the Father wants such people to worship Him. God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” – (John 4: 23-24. HCSB). Are you a true worshiper of God?
Active Relational Christian Mentoring is just one of the many ways that we can worship God through our personal fruit producing services for Him and others. In fact, it is one of the easiest ways to honor God and bless Him back for all the blessings He has bestowed upon you. Indeed, this particular ARCM service is a blessing to God, because in Christian mentoring we are either telling others about God, or we are shining the Light of Christ on other women through our personal Active Relational Christian Mentoring. In other words, we are then worshipping God through our active service of selflessly mentoring another.
Notice that there are four very important words within this second descriptive phrase that I used for the title of my book. The first important word within the second phrase of Active Relational Christian Mentoring is the word “Active”, which denotes a positive action such as being energetic, dynamic, enterprising, lively, working, achieving, and accomplishing things all within a person’s active efforts.
The Second Word within the phrase Active Relational Christian Mentoring is the word: “Relational”. This word is used because God created relationships. In fact, God wants us to be in relationships with each other and in a relationship with Him and His Son, Jesus Christ. Indeed, we discover early in the first chapter of Genesis that God was first and foremost in a relationship with Himself, i.e., within the Trinity of God: The Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Later, God created a mentoring relationship between Adam and Eve and Himself to teach them, to encourage them, and to bless them in their life on earth. But, most importantly, God wanted Adam and Eve to be in a relationship with Him. He wanted them to know Him and Worship Him.
It was unfortunate that Adam and Eve decided not to trust the Lord by accepting Satan’s lies instead of God’s Truth. Consequently, they lost their close relationship with God. Even so, in order to survive outside the Garden of Eden, God blessed them with other relationships, and now He blesses us, too, with a myriad of different kinds of relationships. These relationships include the relationships of husband and wife, parents and children, grandparents and children, as well as relationships with extended family members, relationships with friends, and relationships with other people, to name just a few. These relationships allowed the human race to not only survive, but thrive. But, it wasn’t until God sent His Son, our Savior Jesus Christ, into the world to take upon His shoulders the sins of the world that mankind could again have a personal relationship with God. Because of God’s grace and mercy, we can again have a relationship with God, if we believe in and accept Christ as our personal Savior.
Once a person, through personal acceptance of and belief in Christ as the living Son of God, has come into the Salvation relationship, she will forever have a personal relationship with the Trinity of God. But, it is this personal relationship with Christ that entitles people to be called Christians. Moreover, God not only wants Christians to have a personal relationship with Christ, He also wants Christians to develop godly relationships with other Christians and to even develop acquaintance relationships with non-Christians in order to tell them about His Son, Jesus Christ, the Savior. In other words, Christians are to share with the rest of the world the Good News or Gospel message of Jesus Christ as the living God and Savior of the world, in the hopes that others will come to know Christ as their Savior too.
Every time we share the Gospel with someone that has of yet to come to the saving grace of Christ, we are worshiping God and blessing God for all that He has done for us. But sharing the Gospel message with another person is not the end of our responsibility. For, if the Gospel message touches the heart of a person in such a way that the person comes to know Christ personally, i.e., they believe on and accept Christ as their Savior, our time with them is not over. This should just be the start of an Active Relational Christian Mentoring relationship with that person. Because now we have not only a responsibility to mentor that new Christian in the knowledge of the Bible, but we also have the responsibility to mentor them in how to walk as a new Christian for the Lord. In other words, we are to be there to help them and to disciple them in living for the Lord.
Have you helped anyone come to know Christ as their Savior? Have you helped anyone learn how to develop a closer walk with the Lord? Or, perhaps you have helped a fellow Christian when they needed moral support, help, spiritual guidance, coaching, etc., or you have helped a friend when they were down and out? If you have, you have indeed not only blessed that person, but you have blessed, honored, and worshiped God with your active Christian mentoring relationship by helping someone who needed your help or expertise.
The third Word in the phrase within Active Relational Christian Mentoring is the word “Christian” which explains or describes the type of mentor that you are and the type of mentoring that you will be doing for the Lord. This word, “Christian”, also describes who you are in Christ. Obviously, there are many people out there in the world who are willing to mentor another person on many different topics or subjects, but there are not many people who actually represent Christ and His Father within their mentoring relationship with another. Christians on the other hand, should have at the forefront of all their mentoring activities, the representation of Christ to their mentee and their willingness to share their knowledge of Christ with another. So, whether a woman is mentoring another woman on budgeting or on some specific emotional need, she should be representing Christ and using the Bible, God’s Word, and prayer as her resources. We can bless and worship God when we read the Bible, share the Bible Scriptures with others, and when we use God’s Word to guide us in all that we do.
The last word in the phrase Active Relational Christian Mentoring is the word “Mentoring”. What is mentoring? Well, the basic definition of mentoring is that is the transference of knowledge, skills, insight, wisdom, values, and laws from one person to another within a relational format or setting. In other words, two people get together with one being the instructor and the other being the student, mentee, or recipient of the information that is being dispensed by the instructor or mentor.
But when all four of the above individual words are taken together there is a better definition or explanation for the phrase Active Relational Christian Mentoring. This definition of ARCM says: Active Relational Christian Mentoring, rooted in Christian faith, love, and service to Christ, is the voluntary and sacrificial investment in the life of another within a relational format for the purpose of sharing knowledge, values, gifts, skills, laws, and other God-given resources to empower and enhance the life of the person being mentored.”
ARCM is Faith, Love, Worship, and Service to Christ
The above definition of ARCM has several important aspects to it. First, ARCM is rooted in Christ faith, love, and service to Christ. Christian mentoring, then, is a way to show our faith and our love of Christ through our service to God and His Son. Notice though, that in order to engage in ARCM, a Christian must voluntarily and sacrificially invest in the life of another person. How does one go about investing in the life of another person? Well, she must voluntarily or willingly offer to and then engage in Christian mentoring, i.e., teaching, informing, sharing, listening to, and caring about another individual by establishing a mentoring relationship.
Taking time from your own life and family to engage in Christian mentoring is a sacrifice on the part of the mentor. It is also a way to show another person that they are loved by God. Christian mentoring is also a service to Christ, because Christ wants us to care about and be of service to those that are in need. That is why it is so important to listen to the needs of others and be willing to help or empower another individual to become all that they can be for God, themselves, their family and their friends. This may come about through the sharing of a particular talent, a gifting from the Lord, knowledge acquired through schooling, information obtained, or wisdom received from the Bible and God. Whatever, a person has to offer within a Christian mentoring relationship, though, should be for the ultimate glory of God and the benefit of the mentee. Then that service becomes a form of worship to God.
We all have strengths and knowledge that we can share with another. We just have to be willing to sacrifice some of our personal time to help another person. If we are willing to mentor another, we will receive so many benefits and rewards that we would never have expected to receive. For, God blesses those who are willing to share their time, energy, knowledge or expertise with others. Indeed, we are explicitly told that “The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped.” – (Proverbs 11: 25. MSG).
Jesus Christ told us “You (that is, His disciples and now all Christians) are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” -- (Matthew 5:14-16. NIV). Obviously, good deeds include our service to others in the name of Jesus Christ.
Worship of God then includes our willing service of sacrifice to Him and to others. Indeed, every day can be a time of worship when we help others in the name of Jesus Christ. In fact, we don’t have to just attend church and be led in a worship service in order to worship God. For, we can worship God with not only our words and deeds, but also with our sacrificial heart by showing others that we honor and glorify God in everything that we do. Active Relational Christian Mentoring then is just another way that we can worship God and also help or empower another person through a developing relationship with Jesus Christ. Moreover, when we help or empower another person through sacrificial Christian mentoring, we are shining the light of Christ out upon them and into the world.
Did you know that when we fail to worship God for whatever reason, we are forfeiting the spiritual riches that God has set aside for us? Every day we are given many opportunities to put God at the center of our lives, but when we fail to put Him there, we are giving up spiritual riches that we could have had. Don’t forfeit your spiritual riches. Put God at the center of your life and then through gratitude for your Savior, Jesus Christ, take every opportunity to share your faith with others.
If you don’t know how to start a Christian mentoring relationship, read my book entitled: The Three-Strand Cord of Active Relational Christian Mentoring. You can find it on Amazon, at Barnes and Nobel, at Christian Faith Publishing Co., as well as at iTunes and Google Play. If you are interested in worshiping God through the service of mentoring, this is a good and easy book to read. It has personal stories in it as well. It will also help you learn how to worship God through your love of others. It will also show you that God has Spiritual Riches just waiting for you.
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